Valentines Day: A Time to Celebrate with Optimistic Relationship Appreciations

Feb. 14, 2011 - PRLog -- As you are thinking about what to say to your Valentine or to anyone you care for on Valentines Day.  Keep in mind these ten categories of things to appreciate about the other.  Use these TEN appreciation categories, defined below, to find a way to send one or more very specific positive messages to this person in your card or the greeting that accompanies your roses or box of candy.

For example, in relation to number one below, you might say:

   * “I really appreciate how you let me know what I need to work on and improve upon to make our relationship better.”  

Ten Positive Relationship Appreciation Categories from Dr. Russ Buss

  1. It is easy to appreciate that which we like best about a loved one, but the relationship becomes stronger when we learn to appreciate that which we like least about the other.
  2. Appreciations given without the expectation of a return appreciation are much more powerful in letting the other know of your love and caring than those that require a return, in kind, appreciation.
  3. Make sure to appreciate a little act of kindness experienced from the other.
  4. Learn to look for a way to appreciate the inner qualities and strengths of the other.
  5. Remember a relationship is not about you it’s about her.  Remember the relationship is not about you it’s about him.
  6. We too often get into a relationship to get our own needs met; needs for companionship, love, sex, and recognition.  “Hey man, look at the beauty on my arm.”  “Hey gals, look at the cute hunk, I landed.”  Try appreciating the other because he or she allows you to meet their needs.
  7. Appreciate what you see, hear, and feel everyday, from the past, present, and future.
  8. Appreciate something about the other that has contributed to your growth and development.
  9. Take the risk of admitting your vulnerability and appreciate your need for and dependence on the other.
 10. Appreciate a partner to help deal with tough times and situations.

Now, make a commitment to appreciate one specific act, thought or quality about someone, everyday for the next year.  Let us know in three, then six and then twelve months how your relationship has grown and developed in ways you could never have imagined.

For more optimism tips go to: http://www.drrussbuss.com

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