Brokenheart - Broken Hearted - Broken Hearts. How to cope with a broken heart.

April 13, 2010 - PRLog -- As most dating experts will tell you, there are good and bad ways to get over a break-up. On one hand, there are the self-destructive methods; for example, overeating, getting drunk, going out and having reckless flings. In a sense, this is the easy way to go. After a break-up, you may be emotionally volatile, and maybe doing these things helps you forget your pain for a time until the wound has scarred over.

As with many things in life, doing it the right way takes more effort, greater will power, and more strength. So, what you do have to do? Here's a step-by-step approach.

1. Clean break: If you were dumped, there might be all kinds of things that you want to say to the person who has broken up with you. In fact, this feeling may be so powerful that you feel like you would do almost anything to get 10 minutes of free access to the person's ear.

But it doesn't matter. It's not going to be easy to set this impulse aside, but it's what you have to do. Make your clean break. If you have things you want to say, tell them to a friend, or write them in your journal. Just let the person go. Maybe you're meant to get back together later on, but it's not going to happen right now. So just let this break-up happen.

And even if you think you will be able to stay friends with the person, you still need to give it six weeks before reconnecting.

2. Refocus your energy: This is the really hard part. All those powerful feelings that you have inside need to be directed toward positive things. Rather than engaging in those well-known self-destructive behaviors, channel your energies into work, exercise, creative projects, home improvement, and anything else that applies to you. The most important thing is to keep it positive.

3. Seek help elsewhere: Hopefully you have at least a couple of friends and family members who are great in times of need. If so, seek the attention and counsel of these people. Don't be afraid to pour out your feelings and to be a little bit emotionally vulnerable. These are the people whom you trust, so you should take advantage of them at this time. Think of it this way: You would do the same for them, so don't hesitate to impose upon them a little bit.

4. Start looking: At this point, it could be that the last thing you want to do is start thinking about dating other people. But let's face it: it's going to happen. You're probably not going to get back together with the person you've just broken up with, and there's really little chance that you're going to stay single forever. So start looking around at new people. Start thinking about what it would be like to be with someone else. And in the meantime, remember that there are some great things about being single, so enjoy it.

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