Debut novelist and National Speaker explores the Psychology of Sexual Fantasy

NEW YORK - Feb. 11, 2014 - PRLog -- A new novel as well as a blog by debut author, B. White, explores the psychology of sexual fantasy. While the book, Cuba After Dark, explores fantasy through its two fictional characters, Don and Carrie Nightengale, the blog, The Psychology of Sexual Fantasy, takes a different approach -- an intellectual look at why people need fantasies.

As part of the book’s launch, White is encouraging both men and women to start talking about their sexual fantasies. On Twitter, and on his Facebook page, where his book is already “liked” by nearly 4-thousand people, White is calling for individuals to start dialoguing about just how far an individual should go to give his/her lover what s/he wants. This is something even researches haven’t yet been able to pin point.

“I often wondered if the consequence of taking action on a sexual fantasy would be more severely damaging than not taking that action,” says White. “That thought turned into Cuba After Dark.”

Not since Dr. Ruth Westheimer, who brought sex “out of the bedroom,” has sex been such a popular topic, thanks in part to the breakthrough work of best selling author, Esther Perel and her book, Mating in Captivity. Perel asks some of the same questions put forth in White’s new sexual fantasy, including, “Why is the forbidden so erotic?”

White shows us why in his cautionary tale, Cuba After Dark. This fascinating story brings the reader to a mysterious sex-fueled cabaret in the catacombs of an ancient slave castle in Cubawhere budding hotelier, husband and father, Don Nightengale, offers couples an erotic fantasy for their benchmark 40th Birthdays. The fantasy – or risk -- played out in Cuba After Dark: Is this what men really want?, is the ménage a trois. “I wanted to write a novel that takes a look at the desires of both sexes,” White said. Studies have shown that fantasies of a threesome are among the top five most common male fantasies and among the top 10 for women. While White’s novel is about sexual risk, it’s truly a tale of the psychology of playing that risk out. “My novel looks at what happens when one partner wants to push the boundaries of sexuality and the other does not. It asks an important question -- how much can we really ask of the person we love?”

White’s erotic tale is a fictional account of the scientific research that suggests that if the fantasy is something in which both partners are interested then it’s fine to play out that sexual fantasy. But, if the fantasy is something about which one partner “is not accepting, then the person has to decide between his sexual preference and his marriage,” says David Barlow, director of the Sexuality Research Program at the State University of New York.

In his blog, which will launch in next two weeks, White will continue to look at the intellectual side of sexual fantasy, exploring the current research and sparking the conversation. “I want to talk about the paradox of being human: we want adventure while at the same time we want and need security in monogamous relationships.”Perel similarly explains that as humans, men and women have a need for security, predictability, safety, dependability, reliability and permanence. “But we also have an equally strong need … for adventure, for novelty, for risk, for danger, for the unknown, for the unexpected,” says Perel.

B. White, a national speaker, insurance executive and former restaurateur, was raised in New York City and grew up with a passion for the hospitality business. After college, he traveled through Europe with a punk rock band where he experienced a unique inside perspective to club life, chronicling his stories of late night debauchery through a journal. In the late 90s, he made his imaginative stories come alive and opened two restaurants, Pierrot Bistro and Donna Bella’s, in New York City's East Village. A combination of all the above set the tone for Cuba After Dark. White lives in Westchester County, New York with his wife and three children.

Cuba After Dark is available for download through Amazon on Kindle, Nook, iBook, Smashwords and is also available for purchase on-line as a paperback. For more information or interviews, please contact,Cari Shane at cari@sasseagency.com.