New book release from author Johanna Sparrow "ICode, Breaking the Silence on child incest"

SAN ANTONIO - July 20, 2016 - PRLog -- Hearing a child crying in the middle of the night for no reason other than someone coming in and touching on them is a horrific thought for parents to process. The fact that this happens every day and no one is trying to stop it speaks shame to many families. For the sake of keeping the family together some parents look the other way when it comes to their children's account of someone touching them.  News flash, your child needs your love and with that love comes your willingness to protect them from all who seek to harm them foreign and domestic.

This means if it is someone in your inner circle or within your family who is  tip toeing in the middle of the night to touch on your child, they must be gone. Your child's safety is in your hands as a parent. If you are dismissing everything they are telling you that's happening to them in the middle of the night or day by someone you trust, you need to take a good look at that person and report them. Does this mean your child can be making up a with a wild story of someone touching in their private place?  I have learned that children in all of their imagination rarely create anything of horror. It takes a lot for a small child to tell you that someone in the family is violating them at night or when no one is around. What's even harder is when that child adores and loves the person that is doing the touching. Your child is left confused, misguided in their views and troubled by what is happening. If your one year old or eight year old tells you that someone is touching them it is your job as a parent to stop what's happening.  If you are unsure about what to do, you must first take your child to the doctor and report what has been happening. A parents lack of doing anything is what sends a negative message to their child that says, I don't believe you and I love the person that is hurting you more.

Not believing your child places blame on your child for what is happening to them as if they have influenced this to take place. What type of parent sends such a message to a child? A parent who may have been a victim themselves growing up. It is not enough for a parent to standby and do nothing. Too many children go to bed at night only to wake up violated at the hands of their parents, siblings, relatives or family friend. If you sense something is happening, do something about it. Keeping your child away from this person if they are invited in your home is the first thing you ought to do, set boundaries. Getting your child to a doctor to get checked to make sure they have not been hurt is the next thing you must do and finally as a parent go to the authorities. Incest leaves it's victims with emotional scars and a parent or caretaker must never dismiss them.

If the person that is violating your child is a spouse or sibling you have a lot more thinking to do, your child does not have time for you to figure out who it is you want to keep around. Many parents when it is a spouse or sibling try to keep it too themselves for fear of what others may think, you are past that and your family is in a crisis. Your child needs to be protected at all cost and knowing just what to do, will not only help heal your child, but help you as a parent.

It's never too late to heal after you have been violated no matter how long ago it was. It's never too late to help your child heal and have a healthy view on life going forward. You are not a victim, but an overcomer and it's time you see that. Today is your day for healing and knowing you are not alone.

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