Free Range Parenting Do Unattended Children Become Independent or Victims of the Pediatric Patrol?

SAN DIEGO - June 14, 2018 - PRLog -- Free range parenting is the concept of raising children in the spirit of encouragement to function independently and with minimal parental supervision. Based on the child's development, geographic surroundings and subsequent potential risks, free range parenting has both backers and detractors. Here's how one private school looks at the issue:

Pros of Free Range Parenting

Key positive outgrowths of allowing our children to walk and play alone or with minimal supervision include:

• Kids that play independently build confidence and skill
• Experiencing risk can teach children consequences
• Parents learn to stop worrying and hovering over their child's every move

Cons of Free Range Parenting

• Where you live can make independent play difficult
• How well you know your child is paramount
• Cooped up kids don't get enough exercise and never see nature
• Today's 'neglect' laws can interfere with parenting
• The media has created an atmosphere that our kids are always in danger from

strangers—and that is not so!

What One Expert Says

"Today's kids are missing the freedom and feeling the fear of free range parenting," Kristin Edwards, M.Ed., Director of Lifetime Montessori School in San Diego, says.

"Grandparents are realizing they scared their kids with "Stranger Danger" and now those kids have grown up keeping their own children inside," she continues.

"But, these days, parents hear reports of Child Protective Services (CPS) being called when kids are allowed to head to the playground on their own. This restricts parents from providing freedoms for their kids and that is a problem."

One Parent's Perspective

Or, as Rachel Nelli wrote, "I'm more concerned that my kids won't get enough exercise and won't learn how to solve problems for themselves; won't learn how to make their own mistakes and pick themselves back up again; and, won't be able to make decisions on their own. When it comes down to it, if someone wants to steal my kid, they could do it with me three feet away. But teaching my kids how to defend themselves, how to listen to their gut, how to use their brains to make decisions—that is more likely to save them than any amount of hovering."

How The Montessori Method Teaches Children

A core tenant of The Montessori Method, a 110 year-old educational philosophy is this: kids learn better on their own by learning independence, consequences and self-esteem by themselves--and at their own individualized learning speed.

"At Lifetime Montessori School in Santaluz, we see that empathy, passion and confidence is all happening by age six," Edwards said. "Maria Montessori said that a confident and successful independent person starts early. So, parents need to give their children time to be kids and time to be purposeful, time to be on their own, time to look around at their surroundings and the ability not to see the world as a place of absolutes."

In other words, parents should step back from coddling, overly protecting and doing their children's jobs for them. "Inasmuch as we think we are good parents because we lovingly do everything for our child, we're not giving them the responsibility for doing things themselves," Edwards says. "Kids may grow up feeling loved and doing well academically but may carry doubts and insecurities as a result."

A Direction to Follow

Helicopter or hovering parents may be just as extreme as those who let their kids wander amuck. We should:

• Let kids do for themselves
• Let kids make mistakes--again and again--until they get it right
• Let kids make grown-up decisions based on their actions
• Let kids be kids

However, there is a middle ground where parents must let go and let their children be children. And, after making children aware of potential risks, give them the freedom to pursue the outdoors on their own or with others their own age. In that way, a balance might be struck between risk and reward to ensure that our children are capable, confident and resilient.

Lifetime Montessori School in Santaluz, an upscale community near I-15 in the middle of San Diego County, is celebrating its 10th year. Featuring toddler, preschool and elementary school curricula, this gifted school teaches nearly 200 children aged eighteen months to nine years based on individualized learning. The school recently earned a 'Best Preschool in San Diego' designation from an independent assessment group. Annual tuition is about $13,000/yr. To book a free group tour, visit: https://lifetimemontessorischool.com/free-tours (http://www.lifetimemontessorischool.com/free-tours).

About This Story: This article is based on previously published materials, including Newsday,
'7 Reasons We Can't Stand Free-Range Parenting,' by Megan McArdle of Bloomberg News, April 14, 2015; Family First, LLC, iMom.com, 'Pros and Cons of Free Range Parenting,' by Dana Hall McCain, 2018; Wikipedia; BuzzFeed, 'This is the Best Argument for Free Range Parenting Yet,' by Mike Spohr, February 19, 2017; and Kristin Edwards, M.Ed., Director of Lifetime Montessori School, San Diego, CA.