Do You Prefer Immediate Gratification to Accomplishment?

HUNTINGTON, N.Y. - Oct. 17, 2024 - PRLog -- You mean I have to make a choice? Yes, usually.

So many of us have dreams, hopes, and goals but we keep going in circles instead of taking productive steps toward achieving them. As time goes on, they seem to slip further and further into the distance. At some point they seem all but lost – lost dreams, lost hopes, lost goals.

This doesn't have to be. Deconstruct it. You will find Immediate Gratification as the nemesis.

Immediate Gratification is a self esteem issue. People who hold their hopes and dreams as important (self-important) and themselves as capable (self-confident) are the ones who find the strength to overcome their need for Immediate Gratification and take the necessary steps to tackle their goals.

What caused your self-importance and self-confidence to erode and your goals to slip further into dreamland in the first place?

The underlying source is unresolved abandonment. Abandonment is a cumulative wound that contains all of the losses, slights, rejections, and disappointments from childhood and beyond. This primal wound is located deep within the self (where our most tender feelings reside) where it festers from within to interfere in our relationships and our lives.

The abandonment wound silently emits a dense emotional gas that stupefies our sensibilities about our own human potential and the direction in which we are taking our lives.

In adulthood, the only real abandonment is self-abandonment. A huge component of healing the primal abandonment wound is recognizing the ways in which Immediate Gratification has caused us to abandon our hopes and dreams. Recovery involves overcoming self-sabotage. There are no magic bullets with this primal wound. Abandonment recovery involves action …

https://www.abandonment.net/articles/prefer-immediate-gratification