Lonely on Valentine's Day? You're Not Alone -- 11 Ways to Make it Work For You

HUNTINGTON, N.Y. - Feb. 12, 2025 - PRLog -- Just as we manage to make it through the winter holidays, here come the bright red hearts of Valentine's Day, and it can be bittersweet. Many people are lonely on Valentine's Day more alone than they'd like to be, and the imagery of doilies, hearts, kisses, roses, boxes of candy, cards, etc., can drum up old feelings of shame and abandonment fear.

The raw human nerve of abandonment and shame can twinge even when we are not aware of it, especially when we feel some anxiety about our connectedness to others. No matter what our circumstances, we all have these feelings – they are part of the human condition.

When we feel a discrepancy between the quality of love we expected to have and the quality of love we DO have, it triggers shame, arousing our worst childhood self-doubts (Am I not enough? Am I not worth keeping? Lacking something important?).

The world is full of eligible, desirable people whose hearts are bursting with love, but who feel bereft of the love and connection they need. They have the capacity for love but no legitimate object to enact it with.

Valentine's Day represents the very thing that so many are missing. It is especially painful if we're going through a breakup or feeling rejected by someone we love. Or maybe we are caught up in cycles of re-abandonment or have difficulty forming relationships. Or maybe we are angry with ourselves for letting insecurity sabotage our love-lives or getting stuck in patterns of being "attracted to the unavailable" …

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