10 Tips for Surviving Rejection

HUNTINGTON, N.Y. - April 24, 2025 - PRLog -- When someone rejects you they acquire power in your mind. They acquire power due to their ability to inflict pain. The more they hurt you the harder it is to let go. This is the painful paradox of abandonment.

"Why does it take so long to get over it?" people ask. Those suffering from rejection judge themselves harshly for not being able to feel better sooner. They beat themselves up for feeling so weak and needy. They feel this so called "weakness" is proving their abandoner right for rejecting them.

People going through abandonment lose self-esteem this way. They beat themselves up for losing the person. They conclude that they must be reject-able, valueless, unworthy. They shame themselves for pining and yearning and wanting someone who has hurt them so badly.

They turn the rage over being rejected against themselves, beating themselves up, causing themselves to plummet into a painful depression, damaging their self-esteem further. Having disqualified themselves as worthy of love, they are panicked over fearing that they will wind up dying alone. The anxiety seems unbearable and bottomless.

That's why abandonment grief feels like a terminal illness. People are afraid they will die of their wounds – that is, die anxious, worthless, and alone. Whew, a painful depression! And it lags on.

How To Deal With Rejection

First and foremost, stop berating yourself for feeling so miserable – and for the length of time it is taking you to get over it. It's only in the movies that people recover so quickly. It's only in the movies that people just get mad, burn their ex's clothes, and walk away triumphant. In real life, people pine away for long periods of time, but they are too ashamed to admit to most people. So when it happens to you, you think you're taking too long, but this ongoing pain is how men and women alike react to rejection …

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